To Drink or Not to Drink, That Is the Question

Alcohol is served at almost every single professional event.  You always see people walking around the room with a beverage in hand.  Is it appropriate as a recruit, or prospective employee, to drink?  If so, how much is acceptable?  There is no hard and fast rule, but here are a few tips to help you navigate these tricky waters.

Gauge the Environment Around You

Does it seem like only the partners are indulging?  Are most people enjoying beer and wine, or are mixed drinks the norm?  You want to blend in as much as possible.  Think "chameleon".  Also, you do not want to overdo it at a professional event.  Self-police how many alcoholic beverages you can enjoy, so you do not lose your focus, and you are still conscious of your actions.

You never want to be the center of attention.  If you drink a little too much, excuse yourself and head home.  It is better to show up and leave a positive and short impression than be "that person who ended up dancing on an elevated surface".  If you are not a drinker, do not fret--no one is asking what is in your glass.  Get water, soda, or any beverage that you want, and no one is going to cross-examine you.

Keep a Clear Head

Everyone knows alcohol impairs your judgment.  This is no secret, and it is easy for someone to tell when your judgment is impaired.  You need to pace yourself, and you need to regulate yourself.  You may make connections at these professional events that could land you your dream job or your dream internship, but unfortunately, it can all be erased if you do not keep tabs on yourself.  Just because there is unlimited free alcohol does not mean that you can treat the event like an undergraduate fraternity party.

At professional events, you are there to make a good impression.  Sloshed and slurring is not the image that you want to leave with anyone, even if it is an associate.  Following these events, the firm often asks its employees to share information about the people that they found memorable (and this means the good and the bad).  Make sure that your behavior lands you on the nice list.

Take an Uber or Lyft

At these events, I personally choose not to carpool--I would much rather depend on Uber or Lyft to get me home.  There is no way to keep perfect tabs on a designated driver, so I always choose to be safe and take one of these services home.  I am lucky in the fact that my Uber/Lyft rides are never very long, so I come out with a fare that's usually less than $10.  But, if there is a large surge in the area, I will share the ride with a friend that lives close to me.

The important thing is to be smart, be safe, and do what is best for you.

Lots of love,

Caffeine Crashes and How to Avoid Them

These days it seems like everyone gets their fair share of caffeine--whether it comes in the form of coffee, soda, or energy drinks.  People also are all too familiar with the afternoon crashes that often follow the consumption of caffeine.  The little-known fact is that people do not know that this issue is completely avoidable.

The Definition of Caffeine Crash

Caffeine crash (n.): A crash that usually occurs a few hours after a person has consumed a moderate to high dose of caffeine and was previously in a tired state.

Common symptoms of a caffeine crash:

• Extreme fatigue
• Inability to concentrate
• Irritability
• Dozing off

The good news is that these symptoms can be lessened or eliminated by taking a few simple steps.  Changing some habits could definitely be worth it to increase your energy levels.

How to Avoid the Crash

The first step is to try to get as much effective rest as possible.  As a lawyer and law student, this is very difficult, but this means to avoid unplanned naps, attempt to regulate your sleep schedule, and turn off your electronics once you climb into bed to avoid blue light.

Second, try to spread your caffeine consumption throughout the entire day.  Rather than consuming your coffee back to back, drink one cup in the morning and one in the afternoon.  This avoids shocking your system with a huge dose of caffeine.  Instead, the caffeine is allowed to slowly enter your system and power you throughout the day.

Third, do not give yourself an unreasonably high dose of caffeine at one time.  A single serving of caffeine is considered to be 100-200 mg (the amount in a single serving of coffee).  If you ingest more than this at one time you will probably experience a crash during the day.

The fourth step is to consume food with your caffeine.  It is best if this food is rich in protein and other essential nutrients rather than a sugary muffin or donut.  Having caffeine on an empty stomach can lead your body to process the caffeine too quickly and a crash.

Finally, STAY HYDRATED.  The only way to do this is to drink plenty of water throughout the day.  Caffeine crashes are often due to dehydration.  A proper amount of water keeps your body's natural processes functioning correctly.  Unfortunately, there are no shortcuts here.  Juice, soda, or any other drink is not a substitute for water.  You need to drink legitimate H2O to keep up your hydration.

Keep your energy and productivity up,

How to Network and Why it is Important

Shake Hands with Anyone

Believe it or not, almost everyone feels awkward at networking events.  It is a room of people where people only know a handful, and they are not sure who they should talk to first.  Usually, the best approach is to introduce yourself to the first person you see.  When you begin to discuss your interests, that person will usually introduce you to the key people that you need to know.

For example, you see a woman standing near the entryway who is not already engaged in a conversation, just approach her.  The conversation will naturally flow, and then she will introduce you to another person.  This is the simplest way to work the room.  Eventually, you will come full circle.

Have a Variety of Topics in Your Back Pocket

You never know what you could have in common with a person--and people always surprise you.  Maybe you both have climbed the Sydney Harbor Bridge, maybe you both love deep-sea fishing, or maybe you both love to attend Major League Baseball games.  It is also smart to check current events right before you leave or on your way over to the event.  Sometimes a new headline might sneak its way into a conversation.  Just make sure not to make any super politically charged statements--it might turn people off.

Having a list of generic questions prepared is good, but having specific ones while revealing you did research before the event is even better.  Everyone loves telling stories without having to start at square one.  A notebook to write down pertinent information might be useful in this situation, just in case something really sticks out as interesting.

Make Sure to Get Their Contact Information

This is probably the simplest, yet most commonly made mistake.  Someone attends an event, has numerous spectacular conversations and no way to contact the people following the event.  I like to send a little thank you blurb to everyone that I met via email.  That way, you remind them who you are, and you stay on their mind.

Also, if you get business cards, it is useful to make a note on the back of each one.  You can write when and how you met them and your common connection.  This way, you will be able to remember who they are in case he or she invites you to coffee or another event afterward.

Don't be afraid to put yourself out there, and don't be afraid to show them who is boss.

Exercising in Law School, Yes it is Possible

Make a Plan That is Easy to Follow

As it is with anything in law school, you have to make everything as simple as possible.  That includes your exercise routine.  Generally, if you focus on one part of the body for each workout, then it creates a goal that is easy to reach.  And it avoids you from getting discouraged.  It takes a person an average of 66 days to create a habit so, that just means you need to stay on top of it for a month and one week.  That doesn't sound so impossible, now does it?

Get Guidance if Needed

Most people have no clue what they are doing (and that still includes me) when they try to create workouts.  The best part is that there are many options here to learn more about how to move your body.  Some people prefer to use a face-to-face personal trainer that can guide them through the movements and teach them how to use machines.  Some people prefer to participate in group classes, which are available at almost every single gym.  Some people even prefer to use a workout app to guide them along the way at their own pace.  No matter what works for you, there is a multitude of options.

The one grave mistake that must be avoided is signing up for a membership to something like Pure Barre or Soul Cycle if you know that you will not keep up your commitment.  These memberships can be quite expensive and create a black hole in your wallet if a location is just a little bit too far to be convenient, or if you only have time in the early morning or late evening.

But before you pay for any membership, check with your school! Some schools offer free admission to their fitness centers if you are enrolled as either a part-time or full-time student. This could save you hundreds of dollars in the long run!

My Personal Favorite

(This is not a sponsorship or encouragement to use this service; I just find that it works best for me and my schedule.)

I use Sweat: Kayla Itsines' Bikini Body Fitness Workouts.  It is super convenient, and it comes on a multitude of platforms.  You can log on using your computer, or you can download the app.  I like to do the workouts in the middle of my living room with a workout playlist pumping through my Bluetooth speaker.  The workouts are 30 minutes long with 30 minutes of cool-down stretches.  Minimal equipment is required because most of the moves are body-weight focused.  To me, this means no travel time to the gym, little to no clean up, and I can get back to my assignments right away.

Accountability Buddies

I love having a workout buddy.  This year, I had a fellow friend that would always remind me the days that we promised to work out together during the week, and we would challenge each other to either make or find the best workout playlist of the week.  She lived within walking distance of my apartment, so we would go to my place after class and walk home.  Sometimes we even rinsed off real quick and studied together.  It made the workouts super fun, we could socially chat and take our minds off of school, and then get back to the grind.  Both of also appreciated the fact that we got some blood flowing before we sat back down.  We did it Elle Woods style.

Gym Fear

If you do choose to enroll in a gym program or some type of membership, just remember--no one is actually watching you.  Okay, the guy that keeps peeking over might be checking you out, but what's the harm if he ends up asking for your number?  A free coffee?  A nice meal?

Most of the other people at the gym are there for the exact same reason that you are--to have a fantastic workout before they have to face life again.  Do not be afraid of the "gym bros" or the people who like to watch themselves do reps in the mirror.  They are wrapped up in their own world anyway, and they are not paying you any attention.  The gym is actually a judgment free zone, so do not be afraid to step off of the treadmill and lift some weights.

You can do it!

The How-To Guide on Working with People You Dislike

It has happened to all of us--we have been stuck in a group with that ONE person that makes us so angry we could yell.  Somehow, we have all survived those experiences with varying levels of injury.  As anyone who works in a professional setting will tell you, you will always have to work with someone that you cannot stand.  Here are a few pointers that I have found useful to myself when I am put in these situations.

The One Who Won't Pull His/Her Weight

I think I find this situation the worst.  I am always of the opinion that "if you are not going to try, then why are you even here?"  This kind of person is dead weight on the team--you can ask him/her to fulfill a task, but there is no guarantee that it will be completed or completed to an acceptable level.

Fill the Void Yourself

I know this is not a solution that anyone wants to hear, but it is the honest truth.  If you have a dead-weight, then it is still your team's responsibility to get all elements together for the project.  Sometimes, this means that you have to bite the bullet yourself and do the part that the dead-weight will not do.

There is one bonus to this outcome.  (Hard to believe, I know.)  Your professor/boss will be able to detect the dead-weight in the group very quickly.  The person who did not complete their part is easily detectable.  If it is a written paper, a professor will be able to read it and know that it is all in one voice.  Presentations are a chance for the biggest red flags to pop up.  If there are gaps in a person's knowledge, it is going to be blatant when someone is standing in front of the class with very few things to say.

Let the Gaps Stay Present

Sometimes you are under too much stress to do anything than your initially assigned part.  In these cases, you have to let the chips fall where they may.  Sometimes one must "suck it up" and let it just happen.  If the parts were assigned by your professor, he or she will know exactly who did and did not fulfill the necessary obligations to fulfill the project's specifications.

This is not my first suggestion, especially if the parts were not specifically assigned to each person.  The professor may think that you or your group forgot an essential part of the assignment.  This can strongly affect your grade.  But, if you have to take a few points off of your grade rather than bombing then entire assignment, that may be a sacrifice you must make.

Explain the Situation to the Professor

I know that no one wants to be a tattletale, but if you are having that much trouble with a member of your group and everyone in the group has done everything that they could, sometimes you have to go to your last resort.  There has been only one time that I have had to do it, but the professor seemed to already know what was going on.  The professor knew that the one group member had not been meeting during all of our planning meetings, and he was very aware that the group member was not researching his piece of the project.  Professors are often significantly more perceptive than we give them credit for.

The One Who is the "Know-It-All"

Your first instinct, in this case, may be to confront the troublemaker of the group.  That is not the best choice.  If a group member is starting out hard-headed, there is no reason to believe that they won't continue to be.  The best thing to do is to make strong suggestions, and take things in the direction that you believe will produce the best product possible.

Avoid the Screaming Match at All Costs

Lawyer personalities--we are all Type A.  This means that we do not always keep our cool, but in this case, it is imperative.  No one likes the person who overreacts or explodes.  It makes everyone fearful of your future reactions to their ideas and input.

Screaming matches also do not make one appear very professional, but rather immature.  This is something that people will remember well into their professional careers--when they are either facing you in the courtroom or sitting across from you in the conference room during negotiations.  The impression that you leave with people now is the impression that they will have for the rest of time.

No One Can Actually Know It All

There is no such thing as someone who is omnipotent.  No single person can actually know every piece of knowledge that is possible to know.  When someone makes a mistake, do not be quick and unsympathetic.  It could be you that has cases and facts mixed up, and you do not need someone to turn around and meanly point it out to you.

When the "Know-It-All" comes down off of his or her pedestal, there is no need to make it a larger deal than it is.  After he or she admits that he or she made a mistake, let it go.  Everyone will respect you more for that than pointing out the fact that you are right and rubbing it in.  Be a team player and support the others.  Do not let others define you.

There is No Such Thing As Perfect

Even if you have the exact group that you want, nothing will be perfect.  Friends will make mistakes.  People who you thought you could trust will let you down, and life will give you your fair share of speed bumps.  No matter what, keep your head held high, a strong sense of dignity, and your composure.

Believe me, I have been there.

Grammarly: Catching the Mistakes You Didn't Know You Were Making

The Grammar Tool of the Future

Grammarly is a free program that you can download onto your computer and use with a multitude of programs, such as Microsoft Outlook, Microsoft Word, your internet browser, etc.  It catches common grammar mistakes that people make in writing.  I use it while composing thank you notes, emails, and professional letters, so I do not send something with a simple error that I did not catch when proofreading.

Check with Professors before Use on an Assignment

If you download Grammarly, and you plan on using it for Legal Writing assignments, make sure that you ask your professor if they allow the use of the tool on your assignments.  Some professors express that you cannot use any kind of grammar/spelling tool rather than the traditional "spell check".  Following the directions and regulations set forth by your professor is paramount.

There is a Premium Version

I myself only use the free Grammarly program, but there is a more advanced version that requires a subscription fee.  I have not felt much of a need to upgrade, but if you are not comfortable with your grammar skills, it might be worth it.

The Application Made Me a Conscientious Writer

After using Grammarly for a while, I started to catch some of the common mistakes that I made when writing.  I learned while working with Grammarly how to be a better proofreader for myself.  This is a way that can even help you practice your writing before you work on final papers or projects on which Grammarly is not permitted.

You Can Download It Easily and Quickly

In order to download Grammarly for your computer and its programs, follow this link:
Grammarly

Enjoy,

I Took My Boyfriend To Class

It's no question that law school is tough. All through orientation I was told, "Law school is a marathon, not a sprint." However, I have the added stress of being in a long-distance relationship –  on top of my 1L status – which makes life a hectic, stressful feat, in and of itself.

One of the benefits of my relationship though is that my boyfriend, whom I've been with since November 2016, is a lawyer himself with his own criminal defense firm in Boise, Idaho. This makes the distance between us approximately 1,248 miles – not that I've confirmed this with Google Maps a dozen times for accuracy. While things are tough, he makes every attempt to visit me in Nebraska – especially during breaks. So far, he has visited Nebraska five times since August, when he helped me move into my apartment –  since I had a busted leg (but that's for another story). But, it was this last visit that made things really interesting as it was against his usual M.O. of visiting during breaks; he visited when I had class. So, I proceeded to bring him to class with me. It was either that or he stay at home by himself and the cats until taking him to the airport immediately after class. My boyfriend, two years post-Bar Exam and 2.5 years post-graduation, sat in on three of my second semester 1L classes: Legal Research & Writing II, Civil Procedure II, and Constitutional Law II.

**Disclaimer: I asked permission of all my professors a week or two in advance of my boyfriend actually sitting in class.

Legal Research & Writing II: 9:30-10:45a

This is my first class of the week and honestly, it's a great way to start. I sit in the very back of class - due to my having chosen the spot last semester due to my leg injury (again, this is for another story) - so, it was easy for my boyfriend to not be a distraction to the other students. My professor is very laid-back and has a sarcastic sense of humor, and she also brings baked goods on occasion. This day was no exception as she brought homemade cookies for everyone (there are approximately 16 kids in my LRW section). This week, our class was light in nature as we were doing mock oral arguments, for extra credit, in preparation of our Motion Brief oral arguments taking place next week.

After everyone got their cookies, and before we started oral arguments, my professor made sure everyone in class knew I brought "Show-and-Tell" to class. Boyfriend gave a brief introduction about himself and then gave everyone great reassurance that we are all in law school because we were rock stars in undergrad and that school believes in us and that this should translate to our oral arguments; go in confident, like a rock star, and believe in yourself. He also regaled the class about how terrified he is for his own upcoming oral argument in front of the Idaho Court of Appeals next month, letting everyone know that even as a lawyer, he still gets scared too. We then got into our mock oral arguments, which were all structured around silly topics like “heels are better than flats/flats are better than heels.” Since it was extra credit, and we were doing this for two class periods, I chose not to volunteer during class as the idea of giving an argument in front of Boyfriend – as well as being questioned by him – was nerve-wracking, even though I’ve watched him in court multiple times. Sure enough, he did ask questions of the other students who were presenting oral arguments and even got some kudos from my professor, who exclaimed how much she liked his style. Overall, he really enjoyed sitting in on this class with me.

Lunch Hour: 10:45a-1:00p

Everyone’s favorite time: lunch.  Boyfriend and I spent this time eating lunch that I had made the night before in the Commons. A few of my friends from class came by to talk to us a little bit more now that we were out of class. One of my classmates even told us that we have very similar smiles, something we had never been told before.

After eating lunch, I worked on filling out my application to be a 2L Orientation Mentor for next year’s incoming 1L class. Since this had to be submitted to the administrative offices, I introduced Boyfriend to the Assistant Dean of Admissions, who had watched me progress through my injury and heard all of the stories of how Boyfriend had been such a helpful and wonderful man during one of the hardest times. Plus, I had only been talking about him for the last 7.5 months, so she was dying to be introduced. She was so excited to finally be meeting Boyfriend that she came out and gave him a big hug because, “I feel like I know you at this point.” We talked for a good half an hour prior to going to class.

Civil Procedure II: 1:00p-2:30p

Honestly, Civil Procedure is probably the most boring class I could possibly have. However, my normal professor keeps it interesting by using Top Hat software for class participation. My professors NEVER calls on anyone during class. Unfortunately, we had a “substitute” professor to teach our class and it happened to be the teacher who is completely scatterbrained during lecture. So, we happened to be at the point in the course where we are discussing the Erie doctrine. For me, this topic is hard enough as it is but now I have a professor who gets sidetracked on random tangents trying to explain it to an entire class. Boyfriend found this class the hardest to sit through. We spent a good amount of time trading notes on a little piece of paper about little nuances that were going on. My professor was determined to see how our class had set up our “flowcharts” for the Erie doctrine – which I can guarantee, a majority of the class has not created a flowchart for this topic.

Professor kept asking us questions regarding an assignment that we had to do over the previous weekend, but no one was engaging or participating. Boyfriend found this the hardest part of sitting through second semester 1L classes: not being able to answer questions to which he now knows the answers to. He also took out the time to tell me that the Erie doctrine is really only a three-box flowchart for the Bar Exam, but that – of course for a 1L class – it would be a 15-box flowchart as it relates to school exams. Honestly, it was painful to watch Boyfriend sit through this class because it was just as painful for me and my classmates.

Constitutional Law II: 2:30p-3:45p

Boyfriend will be the first to tell you, he is a Con Law nerd. This actually rubbed off onto me in second semester of Con Law to where I found myself telling him, “I’m really sorry I said I hated Con Law so much.” Now, whenever I read something for class that I want to talk about, it turns into a 90-minute conversation about all the things related to that one topic.

Any who, my Con Law professor is also my favorite. He’s former military, wears impeccable tailored suits and I’m sure that every girl in class has somewhat of a crush on the guy. But, I digress.

We spent the day talking about First Amendment and fighting words, aka Chaplinsky issues. Being that Boyfriend is a Con Law nerd, he found it exceptionally hard to not input anything toward the conversation. He also commented afterwards about how he felt that my Con Law professor uses the Socratic method in one of the more proper ways he’s seen as well as the general overall structure. He also noticed how my Con Law professor tries to keep everything conversational and not as terrifying as it should be. He was kind of sad that we couldn’t get to one of his favorite First Amendment cases – Cohen v. California (1971). He will tell you this was probably his second favorite experience of coming to class with me.

Throughout the day, Boyfriend met several of my friends from class – all of whom I had told all about him because he’s just so awesome to me. Afterwards, a lot of my friends came up to me and told me how cool it was that he sat in on class with us and how nice of a guy he is. To be honest, I was terrified to have him come with me seeing that he had already done his three years of suffering, but overall it was an enjoyable experience.

Stay classy everyone!